If you want to know if you are winning your war against narcissist abuse, look no further than their attempts to shut you down from speaking your truth. My truth will never be shackled by a narcissist; not now, not ever.
How To Love Again
An interesting topic that I have seen very little written about is how to love again. We inevitably want to love and be loved. It is human nature, narcissists excluded. How long does it take to recover? When is it OK to date again? Should I share my story with my new partner? Can I…
The Narcissist “Non-Apology” Apology
How My Covert Narcissist Apologized…All Two Times Having spent 17 years (14 years married) to a covert narcissist, I can tell you that I spent more time apologizing for the sake of trying to put things to rest than I care to remember. At the very least, I did so until I learned I was…
Divorcing A Narcissist
Divorcing or separating from a narcissist is truly an experience like no other. Ironically enough, it doesn’t really matter who initiated the discard; but you can expect their sole mission will be to make your life miserable every step of the way. You will see them at their worst in terms of petty, immature, and…
The Inconvenient & Inevitable Truth
Narcissists, by their nature are adept at manipulation and control. This makes perfect sense as it is fundamental to their survival. Gaslighting, mirroring, projection, and triangulation are among the many tools in their tool belt that they use to not only manipulate their victims, but also to conduct smear campaigns against their victims. An especially…
The River of Dreams
Billy Joel wrote “River of Dreams” to explore the themes of trust betrayal, and the search for something sacred. The song explores the idea of understanding one’s own innermost thougts and feelings. Ultimately the song is about the importance of following one’s own path in life, even when facing uncertainty and doubt. I chose this song…
Transformation…A New Beginning
I speak, text, or have some sort of engagement with my support network daily. Without question, they have been foundational in helping be where I am today. Somehow, I have always managed to survive what life has thrown at me; but it was a lot easier with their love, encouragement, and support. One of the…
Unbelievable
EMF’s guitarist and primary songwriter, Ian Dench, wrote “Unbelievable” after being dumped by a girlfriend, and the song’s melody came to him while riding his bike, reflecting his conflicting emotions and musical influences.
My Ruminations
As a reminder rumination involves repetitive thinking or dwelling on negative feelings and distress and their causes and consequences. The repetitive, negative aspect of rumination can contribute to the development of depression or anxiety and can worsen existing conditions. As a person who thinks and analyzes my situations, overcoming ruminations was a difficult challenge. We…
Help Is On It’s Way
Little River Band released this song in 1977 and is their only number one hit. There is strength in numbers when it comes to covert narcissist survivors. There is nothing wrong with reaching out for help when we need it on our road to recovery. Similarly, it is often good to let fellow survivors know…