Who am I? In the words of Joe Walsh, I would consider myself an “Ordinary Average Guy” who, as a codependent, got mixed up in a relationship with a narcissist. Neither terms were ones I was familiar with until seeking out marriage counseling and individual therapy in 2018.
My life was really no different than that of many other people. I had a successful career as a naval nuclear engineer on submarines. I later followed with a successful career in Information Technology. My spouse and I began our life together on September 11th, 2007. We dated for several years, and purchased a home together in Schodack, NY in December, 2009. We later married on April 24th, 2010.
The two of us led a relatively quiet life with our dogs and koi pond. Although we did not have children together, we had three children between the two of us; all of which were successfully living their own lives in the northeast.
At the time of being accused of domestic abuse, we were at the cusp of retirement and enjoying the rest of our lives together in the “vacation spot” that we had transformed our home into. Our lives were not unlike that of many people; or at least so it seemed.
There is no stereotype of what a marriage to a narcissist looks like. Mine looked picture perfect, as many do.
Welcome back! Please repost your old content. I found it inspiring, real, and an honest account of what life is like with a narcissist. Also, Happy New Year!
Thank you. It’s good to be back. I can assure you that my content will be reposted. I just need to ensure that I am not violating the terms and conditions for what I post. As you would expect, narcissists don’t like to be exposed. As a result, I need to ensure I don’t post her name or likeness on my website.
Welcome back and Happy New Year! I am extremely grateful that you decided to bring your website back up. Your content here and on Quora have always been a big help to me.
It is a great New Year! I will be posting regularly on both my website and Quora. More to come.