My blog and story originally served as a form of writing therapy. I needed an outlet to express myself. It was also important to me from a therapeutic perspective to be able to express myself publicly and openly. As you can imagine, and as many can attest to, one of the narcissists tools is control. In the case of a covert narcissist, the rule is absolute control. I will delve into that down the road.
I originally started my writing on Quora, which I do recommend for anyone looking for a good support network for narcissists. However, I wanted more than what Quora could provide from a blogging perspective. I wanted to be able to add other elements and resources for others. As a result, I purchased my domain “covertnarcsurvivor.com” and shifted more writing and focus here. I am still very active on Quora and have a space by the same name.
My purpose and reasons for having this site have evolved, just as my knowledge and understanding of what I was involved with have evolved. At one point in time, the site served a purpose of trying to ensure that my covert narcissist would never try to hoover me back in. That was a genuine fear that my support network and I all had. I can say firsthand that it was a successful endeavor, but you are also guaranteed that exposing a narcissist online will grant you the “fun” of dealing with one very sociopathic (malignant) narcissist. Doing so is definitely not for the faint of heart.
At one point, I shut down this site. The purpose in doing so was twofold: Having reached a settlement agreement, I had committed to removing any images and her actual name from my site (more on that later). So in the short term, it was easier to just shut the site down until I had the time and desire to revisit it. Secondary to that was that the site had served its purpose for me. It allowed me to get through a divorce and see the true light at the end of the tunnel. The good news was that the light at the end of the tunnel was not an oncoming train. Thus my decision to resurrect my site. In my time on Quora, I have learned that there are many others who may benefit from my experience of spending 17 years with a covert narcissist; including the success and joy I have experienced on “the other side.”
I hope this site serves anyone suffering under the wrath of a narcissist. If it does, please feel free to share it as such in the comments sections of my pages and posts.
I survived…and you can too!
Wow, what a great looking dog!
Thank you. Harry was our first English Setter. He was a beautiful dog with a pretty serious case of separation anxiety. As a result, he went everywhere with us. He was the first of three English Setters that I owned with my spouse.