In previous blog posts, I have highlighted a couple of important points:
- A an attorney experienced and specializing in personality orders is a game changer.
- Narcissists cannot deal with the “inconvenient and inevitable truth.”
- The acts of the narcissist are nothing short of evil.
A common tactic of the narcissist is to leverage the family court system to make your life miserable. The family court system is the ideal system for the narcissist as they can easily obtain a family court order of protection with no evidence. This is the tactic she employed in July 2024 to have me removed from the house after coming home from a trip to Cheyenne. It took me right up to minutes before trial before my covert narcissist withdrew the complaint with prejudice. That took five months.
Once again, my covert narcissist filed and obtained a temporary order of protection, claiming disorderly conduct, harassment, aggravated harassment and stalking. Of course, no evidence except a questionable “log” that she created and a written statement. Rinse and repeat. She desires a permanent order of protection that would include me no longer writing on my blog or posting on Quora. That shouldn’t surprise anyone as narcissists don’t like being exposed.
As I do have a great attorney, I want to help others in showing how you expose a narcissist via the court system. We start with the official docket information as the filing is a matter of public record and can be looked up by anyone:
My Dog Slater
Here is the introduction regarding her actions around the text message and my dog Slater:
This would be followed by the information I previously posted about the mysterious text message I received on April 30th, 2025.
And, some background on what she did to my dog a week after I was removed from the house:
Last, the conclusions drawn as a result of my covert narcissists actions:
Response to Disorderly Conduct
Response to Harassment in the Second Degree
Response to Aggravated Harassment in the Second Degree
Response to Stalking
Closing Statement
Think long and hard about that last point. She claims to be in fear for her safety, yet she has no fear in trying to illicit an angry response by texting about a dog being ill that she knows she euthanized months ago.
Lessons Learned
As a reminder to all, this is the end result of simply going on a trip to Cheyenne, Wyoming to visit friends; friends who I visited with every year after she decided no more visiting at my house. The initial order of protection was filed in July 2024 and I prevailed in January 2025. Who even knows why she dreamed this one up, but she did. The only thing I can conclude is the fact that I have a new life, I have moved on. I only want to complete the settlement on the divorce. Instead of getting the divorce completed, she rather play these games. In the end, it wastes time and money for everyone. More importantly, it clogs up the family court system, preventing legitimate cases from moving forward in a timely manner. For every woman who is legitimately at risk, cases like this prevent those cases from moving forward and being remedied.
Anyone who believes that they can control or fix a narcissist, you can’t. There is no amount of love you can provide to them that will change them beyond the monsters that they are; and they are monsters. They will erupt in narcissistic rage and even move into malignant narcissist behavior, as my covert narcissist did.
I will also add that the red flags were there years ago. I recall when we were early on in our relationship when my covert narcissist went after her ex-husband for college money. We didn’t need it and it wasn’t worth the effort. However, when pressed why, her reply was, “to fuck with him”. She spent more money “fucking with him” for little in return. When we were done in court, her ex-husband thanked me for helping bring it to a close but also said, “you will be next.” He was right. I am the next person that she is focused on “fucking with.”
She could have been divorced months ago, and living whatever better life she thinks is on the other side. Instead, she believes that misery deserves company. Unfortunately for her, it isn’t working.
Never surrender to the narcissist. Fight the good fight. You will prevail in the end, as I will.