This is a must read for anyone who is either dealing with or recovering from a relationship with a covert narcissist. Succinct and to the point, it covers all aspects of understanding covert narcissists from introduction to recovery.
Lido Shuffle
There is no specific meaning to me behind this song, except for it being a fun song. This is one of my favorites to play as part of our annual tour. What is the annual tour? It’s an annual get together with close friends where we eat well and play a serious amount of Rock…
Narcissistic Rage
How My Covert Narcissist Helped My Recovery
Believe it or not, and certainly not by her own intent, but my covert narcissist was a tremendous help in my recovery due to her own actions. It helped me understand what she really was. More precisely, it demonstrated to me the evil that can lie within a covert narcissist. How did she do that?…
Narcissists Can’t Love
Roll With The Changes!
REO Speedwagon’s “Roll with the Changes” was written by Kevin Cronin about his experience moving from Chicago to Los Angeles to rejoin the band. The song is about the journey of moving and adapting to change. It is my reminder that there is not only life after having your world turned upside down from a narcissist, but…
The Middle
Jimmy Eat World’s song “The Middle” is about self-worth, feeling left out, and not giving up on yourself. The song’s message is that you can do great things on your own. It’s also a fun song to play if you are a Rock Band junkie.
Idealization, to Devaluation, to Discard
As I would with any other illness, my approach to marriage to a covert narcissist was to stay married and use all of the tools and education at my disposal to attempt to keep the marriage intact. To be honest, I did not believe we had a bad marriage. We certainly didn’t fight and argue….
Runnin’ Down A Dream
Tom Petty wrote “Runnin’ Down a Dream” as a reflection on the pursuit of one’s dreams, using the imagery of driving on a long road while listening to a favorite song (“My Little Runaway” by Del Shannon) as a metaphor for chasing aspirations and holding onto hope while navigating life’s journey; the “Del” reference in the lyrics…
Let’s Do It!
As would be the case in all narcissistic relationship, all roads lead to discard; whether it be by the narcissist, or their survivor. Whether codependents realize it or not, there is no amount of love that they can give to their narcissist partners to satisfy the narcissists ever growing need for supply. They call it…