I recall telling my friends early on in my recovery, “The dogs are her world. Carol would never do anything to harm the dogs.” This was a sincere belief that I held because our life together was all about the dogs. It was the one thing that I never dreamed she would use as a weapon; let alone, discard as though she were taking out the trash.
I was wrong!
I would later find out that within one week of my being forced out of my home via a temporary order of protection laced with lies and falsehoods, that my oldest dog (Slater) was put down by my spouse. I did not find out until months later, never given the opportunity to understand why the need, let alone to say goodbye if it was necessary.
I would also discover, quite by chance, that Violet was up for adoption shortly after Memorial Day. How can one go from a “gotcha day” post to simply tossing her out of her home and from her pack that was responsible for her recovery? Her excuse (lie) was that the dogs were fighting. If they were, it would most certainly be a result of her own actions than anything else. Reality is that just as she put Slater down, Violet was put up for adoption because it became inconvenient and does not fit with her current narrative. The lie about fighting, and it is a lie, was purely to avoid appearances as to what she really is.
Narcissists Know No Bounds
My original intent was to post an article on what occurs when the narcissists “delusions” collide with reality. However, I found myself drawn back to emphasizing the fact that narcissists simply don’t care about anyone or anything around them. They care only about themselves. I frequently see posts on the forums in which I participate where their victims believe that they can fix their narcissists. You can’t. Narcissists suffer from a significant mental health personality disorder. There is no amount of love or reasoning you can bring to the table that will change their ways. They are unable to form emotional bonds with their partners, pets, or any living being. The other key point is that they are very aware of what they do; including the impact of their actions on others. The reality is that they simply don’t care.
Think long and hard about what my covert narcissist did to the family pets. These are the pets that she claimed were “her world.” Let that sink in long and hard if you are currently involved with a narcissist.
The only path forward with a narcissist is to discard them before they discard you; and it’s just a matter of time before they do. Once you initiate the discard, you need to be prepared for anything and everything. They know no bounds. I am witness to this as she attempts over and over again to file for false orders of protections, puts down dogs, and puts others up for adoption.