"You are not a victim for sharing your story. You are a survivor setting the world on fire with your truth."
With legal disclaimers out of the way (something I will get into momentarily), I want to take some time to ensure awareness of how evil and calculating narcissists can be. I balance my time on my blog and on Quora. I frequently see questions about confronting and exposing narcissists. I honestly don’t recommend confronting or…
An interesting topic that I have seen very little written about is how to love again. We inevitably want to love and be loved. It is human nature, narcissists excluded. How long does it take to recover? When is it OK to date again? Should I share my story with my new partner? Can I…
How My Covert Narcissist Apologized…All Two Times Having spent 17 years (14 years married) to a covert narcissist, I can tell you that I spent more time apologizing for the sake of trying to put things to rest than I care to remember. At the very least, I did so until I learned I was…
Divorcing or separating from a narcissist is truly an experience like no other. Ironically enough, it doesn’t really matter who initiated the discard; but you can expect their sole mission will be to make your life miserable every step of the way. You will see them at their worst in terms of petty, immature, and…
Narcissists, by their nature are adept at manipulation and control. This makes perfect sense as it is fundamental to their survival. Gaslighting, mirroring, projection, and triangulation are among the many tools in their tool belt that they use to not only manipulate their victims, but also to conduct smear campaigns against their victims. An especially…
I speak, text, or have some sort of engagement with my support network daily. Without question, they have been foundational in helping be where I am today. Somehow, I have always managed to survive what life has thrown at me; but it was a lot easier with their love, encouragement, and support. One of the…
Over the last several days, or more, I have had the song “Who Needs You” by Queen swimming around in my mind. I find myself constantly humming the tune because it does have a light catchy sound. At the same time, it brings me comfort about my current situation of trying to bring to closure…
Imagine my surprise when I arrived home (exhausted) from a full day of training yesterday and just broke out in tears. I was a complete wreck. Even worse, I didn’t know what had brought on this sudden, and very emotional outburst. I hadn’t put much thought to my covert narcissist. Nothing new was going on…
It was a day, just like any other day. I was a senior in high school and just arrived home from school. As it was forbidden to enter and exit our house via the front door, I made my way around to the back of the house and came in through the sliding glass door….
Although narcissists are all about obtaining and maintaining supply, they are often dealing with issues of low self-esteem and shame. This is especially true with covert narcissists, which is why they seek out long term supply as compared to their overt narcissist peers. It is also why covert narcissists are fanatical about having absolute control…