"You are not a victim for sharing your story. You are a survivor setting the world on fire with your truth."
It was a day, just like any other day. I was a senior in high school and just arrived home from school. As it was forbidden to enter and exit our house via the front door, I made my way around to the back of the house and came in through the sliding glass door….
Predictable…that is the one word that comes to mind when I reflect back on my ordeal with my covert narcissist. Although I did not know when she would erupt in narcissistic rage, it was still predictable. As much as narcissists are rumored to be a force to reckon with in court, my experience has been…
An interesting and maybe controversial topic on this Valentine’s Day is whether narcissists love their partners and do their partners love them. The easier of the two is the latter question, do their partners love them. I would say emphatically, yes. Why? By our nature, we give 100% in our relationships. Our narcissists were no…
Fundamental to any recovery from a relationship with a covert narcissist is a great support network. This is mine. For clarity, they are the three on the right side of the photo. I cannot say enough great things about all of them. For starters, we all go back 30+ years. The two gentleman and I…
Believe it or not, and certainly not by her own intent, but my covert narcissist was a tremendous help in my recovery due to her own actions. It helped me understand what she really was. More precisely, it demonstrated to me the evil that can lie within a covert narcissist. How did she do that?…
As I would with any other illness, my approach to marriage to a covert narcissist was to stay married and use all of the tools and education at my disposal to attempt to keep the marriage intact. To be honest, I did not believe we had a bad marriage. We certainly didn’t fight and argue….
As would be the case in all narcissistic relationship, all roads lead to discard; whether it be by the narcissist, or their survivor. Whether codependents realize it or not, there is no amount of love that they can give to their narcissist partners to satisfy the narcissists ever growing need for supply. They call it…
I first met my spouse in September, 2007. We dated and purchased our home together in December 2009. We were married in April 2010. So, it isn’t as though we rushed into marriage. Things took a turn in February 2012. I wasn’t sure what was happening. I just knew that no matter what I did,…
So, why share my story for the world to see? I spent 17 years with my covert narcissist, 14 years married. The first few years were simply amazing. I felt like I truly met my life long dream of a person. Shortly after we married, I did notice little things that didn’t make sense to…
Who am I? In the words of Joe Walsh, I would consider myself an “Ordinary Average Guy” who got mixed up in a relationship with a covert narcissist. What is a narcissist? At the time, it seemed like nothing more than a commonly used label to describe somebody that you didn’t particularly care for. I…