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How My Covert Narcissist Apologized…All Two Times Having spent 17 years (14 years married) to a covert narcissist, I can tell you that I spent more time apologizing for the sake of trying to put things to rest than I care to remember. At the very least, I did so until I learned I was…
Divorcing or separating from a narcissist is truly an experience like no other. Ironically enough, it doesn’t really matter who initiated the discard; but you can expect their sole mission will be to make your life miserable every step of the way. You will see them at their worst in terms of petty, immature, and…
Narcissists, by their nature are adept at manipulation and control. This makes perfect sense as it is fundamental to their survival. Gaslighting, mirroring, projection, and triangulation are among the many tools in their tool belt that they use to not only manipulate their victims, but also to conduct smear campaigns against their victims. An especially…
Billy Joel wrote “River of Dreams” to explore the themes of trust betrayal, and the search for something sacred. The song explores the idea of understanding one’s own innermost thougts and feelings. Ultimately the song is about the importance of following one’s own path in life, even when facing uncertainty and doubt. I chose this song…
I speak, text, or have some sort of engagement with my support network daily. Without question, they have been foundational in helping be where I am today. Somehow, I have always managed to survive what life has thrown at me; but it was a lot easier with their love, encouragement, and support. One of the…
As a reminder rumination involves repetitive thinking or dwelling on negative feelings and distress and their causes and consequences. The repetitive, negative aspect of rumination can contribute to the development of depression or anxiety and can worsen existing conditions. As a person who thinks and analyzes my situations, overcoming ruminations was a difficult challenge. We…
Over the last several days, or more, I have had the song “Who Needs You” by Queen swimming around in my mind. I find myself constantly humming the tune because it does have a light catchy sound. At the same time, it brings me comfort about my current situation of trying to bring to closure…
Imagine my surprise when I arrived home (exhausted) from a full day of training yesterday and just broke out in tears. I was a complete wreck. Even worse, I didn’t know what had brought on this sudden, and very emotional outburst. I hadn’t put much thought to my covert narcissist. Nothing new was going on…
Slater – Never got to say goodbye to this wonderful dog. RIP, my best friend.
Thus were the words spoken to me by my attorney after our first family court hearing. The purpose of that hearing was to address the order of protection that was filed against me. At that same hearing, my covert narcissist spouse was also told that I would be serving her with a divorce. To be…