"You are not a victim for sharing your story. You are a survivor setting the world on fire with your truth."
Believe it or not, and certainly not by her own intent, but my covert narcissist was a tremendous help in my recovery due to her own actions. It helped me understand what she really was. More precisely, it demonstrated to me the evil that can lie within a covert narcissist. How did she do that?…
REO Speedwagon’s “Roll with the Changes” was written by Kevin Cronin about his experience moving from Chicago to Los Angeles to rejoin the band. The song is about the journey of moving and adapting to change. It is my reminder that there is not only life after having your world turned upside down from a narcissist, but…
Jimmy Eat World’s song “The Middle” is about self-worth, feeling left out, and not giving up on yourself. The song’s message is that you can do great things on your own. It’s also a fun song to play if you are a Rock Band junkie.
As I would with any other illness, my approach to marriage to a covert narcissist was to stay married and use all of the tools and education at my disposal to attempt to keep the marriage intact. To be honest, I did not believe we had a bad marriage. We certainly didn’t fight and argue….
Tom Petty wrote “Runnin’ Down a Dream” as a reflection on the pursuit of one’s dreams, using the imagery of driving on a long road while listening to a favorite song (“My Little Runaway” by Del Shannon) as a metaphor for chasing aspirations and holding onto hope while navigating life’s journey; the “Del” reference in the lyrics…
As would be the case in all narcissistic relationship, all roads lead to discard; whether it be by the narcissist, or their survivor. Whether codependents realize it or not, there is no amount of love that they can give to their narcissist partners to satisfy the narcissists ever growing need for supply. They call it…
Originally written by Jackson Browne, including a breakdown in Winslow Arizona, he later worked with Glenn Frey to complete the song. It subsequently became a huge Eagles hit. It’s also a great sing-a-long song; and who wouldn’t appreciate a girl, my lord, in a flatbed Ford, slowin’ down to take a look at me.
I first met my spouse in September, 2007. We dated and purchased our home together in December 2009. We were married in April 2010. So, it isn’t as though we rushed into marriage. Things took a turn in February 2012. I wasn’t sure what was happening. I just knew that no matter what I did,…
Freddie Mercury wrote “We Are the Champions” in response to the audience’s enthusiastic participation at a concert in May 1977. The song was intended to encourage mass singalong and audience participation. I would say that he definitely acheived his goal. This really could be the anthem for anyone who survived and recovered from a narcissistic…