Little River Band released this song in 1977 and is their only number one hit. There is strength in numbers when it comes to covert narcissist survivors. There is nothing wrong with reaching out for help when we need it on our road to recovery. Similarly, it is often good to let fellow survivors know…
Author: Covert Narc Survivor
The Road to Recovery – Ruminations
Over the last several days, or more, I have had the song “Who Needs You” by Queen swimming around in my mind. I find myself constantly humming the tune because it does have a light catchy sound. At the same time, it brings me comfort about my current situation of trying to bring to closure…
Superman (It’s Not Easy)
It’s important to recognize that in any recovery from narcissistic abuse that some days will be more difficult than others. We need to remind ourselves that the person we loved, and are now grieving, is not the person they really were. The road to recovery is about progress, not perfection. As the song states, “it’s…
It’s OK to Grieve
Imagine my surprise when I arrived home (exhausted) from a full day of training yesterday and just broke out in tears. I was a complete wreck. Even worse, I didn’t know what had brought on this sudden, and very emotional outburst. I hadn’t put much thought to my covert narcissist. Nothing new was going on…
What Does Evil Look Like?
Slater – Never got to say goodbye to this wonderful dog. RIP, my best friend.
“It’s Just Numbers”
Thus were the words spoken to me by my attorney after our first family court hearing. The purpose of that hearing was to address the order of protection that was filed against me. At that same hearing, my covert narcissist spouse was also told that I would be serving her with a divorce. To be…
Who Needs You
John Deacon wrote Who Needs You as part of Queen’s “News of the World” world album. The band never formally released the basis for the song, but most agree that John is writing about his relationship with his wife. As a covert narcissist survivor, this song rings true and brings forth the push-pull relationship of…
I Should Have Been An Abortion…
It was a day, just like any other day. I was a senior in high school and just arrived home from school. As it was forbidden to enter and exit our house via the front door, I made my way around to the back of the house and came in through the sliding glass door….
Gives You Hell
The hit by the “All American Rejects” revolves around two alter egos of lead singer and bassist Tyson Ritter – one as a traditional family man and the other as a lay-about garage band singer – as neighbors infuriating and pulling pranks on each other due to their different lifestyles and behaviors, while scenes of the…
Narcissistic Collapse
Although narcissists are all about obtaining and maintaining supply, they are often dealing with issues of low self-esteem and shame. This is especially true with covert narcissists, which is why they seek out long term supply as compared to their overt narcissist peers. It is also why covert narcissists are fanatical about having absolute control…