Amy Lee, the lead singer of Evanescence, wrote “Call Me When You’re Sober” about a painful breakup and the need to stand up for herself. The song is about the difficulties of ending a relationship and the courage to move on. The song has become an anthem for many narcissistic abuse survivors and speaks to the courage of leaving a relationship, moving on and stepping into the unknown; something a lot of us survivors initially encounter.
The important point in the song is that Amy Lee changes from “you want me, come find me; make up your mind” to “don’t lie to me, just get your things; I’ve made up your mind.”