Patty Griffin wrote “Useless Desires” to tell the story of a young woman who looks back on her hometown before moving away. The song appears on her album Impossible Dream.
For me, this song rings true as somebody who is looking back at my relationship with my covert narcissist. In particular, it looks back and reminds me that what I saw and loved amounted to “useless desires.” That love was never reciprocated. As a result, I am moving forward with my new life.
Leaving a narcissist behind gives you a unique gift – a chance to design a life and relationship you really want. Life after narcissism isn’t about fixing what was “broken.” It’s about building a rich and meaningful life on your own terms, fueled by the lessons learned and the strength you forged.